Seriously, I feel disconnected from here, I think because I don't get a lot of feedback. Add into the fact that I'm running circles trying to get back into the swing of things with the kids. I had some great blog ideas, and they're gone.
The kids kind of surprised me by asking for some curriculum and asking to revisit the chorepack ideas. I think that comes from them WANTING to help, but me being overwhelmed. I tend to ask for a lot, or to keep asking for more, and this is a good way to say enough, or I did help, I did my share. It not only provides accountability for the helpers, but it's kind of a contract with them that I not go OCD on them and ask for than is reasonable. We saw Dr Mobley yesterday, and she had a suggestion that to increase that independence as well as the unwritten contract, to take a picture of the bare minimum for clean, and let that be good enough.
It's part of me being Melissa-healed. Not only do I tend to have sensory issues and OCD tendencies, but my childhood was full of very strict, rigid expectations, and LOTS of work. This is a step towards normalcy. Even worse is the unpredictability, part of which is from my mom. Sometimes the room is clean enough, and then when I'm feeling overwhelmed, or upset, or just sensory overloaded, I can come in and it's NOT good enough. That's not fair to have such nonstandard expectations.
Like Mommy dearest..."Look at this mess! Two pieces of paper and a DOLL?! You'll clean it up NOW!"